Your mindset is the subconscious filter through which you receive and process all new information. It is the center of your emotional, spiritual and mental universe. All your thoughts, beliefs, decisions and actions rotate around it. It is the set point from which everything you create is created. Our subconscious minds are fertile ground for the most ambitious aspirations and the most evil of plans; the soil in which the seeds of your dreams, goals and ideas are born, and ultimately where they will grow or die. The power of the subconscious mind is not partial to any one thing.
In its primal form, it does not see good and bad. So, if you plant a weed, it will grow a weed. If you plant a flower, that will grow instead. However, both cannot grow simultaneously, so you must choose. When I say you must choose; you must. However, in my experience, we only need to do the right thing 51% of the time. That is technically, the majority of the time. I don’t recommend trying only to do the minimum to make it. What I’m saying is, nobody embodies any of these principles or practices 100%. Not even close. It may seem like a lot to change our thoughts, daily habits and actions, but if you compare it to all the other stuff that the Universe handles, it really is quite a bargain. The small amount of effort we exert compared to the unseen forces that do the rest of work towards manifesting our desires into physical form, is the deal of the century.
Our minds are constantly sending and receiving information at the speed of light. What this means is not only are your thoughts being projected out to the invisible forces of the Universe, which helps bring them into physical form, they are also connecting with other minds. Birds of a feather flock together. This is true, but why? Because like minds will always find each other. If you are a positive easy going and motivated person, you will attract and meet others like you. If you are miserable and negative, you will find your tribe as well.
What all this adds up to is that it’s an incredible responsibility to be in possession of a mind. Even though you may swear some people have lost theirs, the fact is, we all have one. It must be cared for, nourished and inspired. Ever tell yourself, “I’m so stupid!” How about saying out loud to other people, “Sorry, I’m an idiot.” Would you say that to a 5-year old? I hope not. Why do we say it to ourselves? Fear, anger, panic? Doesn’t matter, we need our brains feeling good and ready to go. Take care of your powerful creative center and be grateful for its existence.
Now that we’ve covered the fact that your brain is amazing, incredibly powerful and precious, what do we do about it? Like a thoroughbred or a high-end sport car, it needs to be maintained to perform at its peak. On the subject of success, KISS co-founding member and businessman Gene Simmons offered me this advice: “No drugs, no booze and no stress are a good place to start.” What do all three of these things have in common? They cloud your mind.
If you want to attain greatness or anything close to it, first thing you have got to do is get control of your thoughts. If you are immersed in booze, drugs or stress you will not be able to do this. Everything in moderation is what most doctors recommend. However, whatever anyone thinks about Gene Simmons’ public personality, he has achieved exceptional things in his lifetime and ones that he set out to achieve. So, you can trust Gene Simmons, or your doctor, your choice. Either way, keep your head clear if you want your life to get bigger.
Drugs and booze are obvious material items and we know when we are putting them into our bodies. But what about stress? That was the one that threw me for a loop. How do you have no stress? No, not by being drunk and high! How could I accomplish this? I asked myself and God this question repeatedly over the course of several weeks. Eventually I got an answer. What is in my best interest? Say I’m waiting in line at the supermarket because my family needs food and there is a super long line with an incompetent cashier working. Is it in my best interest to say “screw this,” throw my food down on the ground and walk out? No. I may want to, but my family will still need to eat. The best choice is to make the most of it and complete the task I set out to do. This seems to be obvious. Yet, how many times have you said “screw it” to something you were trying achieve in your life because it took too long or you had to endure situations or people that frustrated you? This may be over the course of a few minutes, hours or years. Did you get a feeling of satisfaction by telling that person off? Did you make all kinds of excuses to justify the fact that you bailed on yourself and your ambitions?
I’ve seen this happen often with touring musicians. They don’t know how to get along with other people, so rather than figuring out how to make it work and complete the tour which will add a credit to their resume and money in the bank account, they end up either getting fired or quitting. Then they go tell everyone how awful the situation was in an attempt to justify things. But in reality, they are now back home wishing they had a gig. What would have been in their best interest would have been to stay focused on what they set out to do. Build their career, make money, see the world–whatever the goal. You can see how we let stress rule our thinking and lead us to self-sabotage. However, if our MINDS are SET on what we really want, with a strong connection to the reasons why and a higher purpose for what our goals are, we will be less likely to get side tracked. It can be so easy to get distracted. The good news is, like I said, you only need to get it right 51% of the time. Don’t get discouraged; keep on trying. You are worth it and your dreams are worth it. We all need you at your best, living your dreams and inspiring the rest of us.
Now your mind is clear, what do you put in to it? Reality TV, the news, foods full of chemicals and negative people? Good luck. Meditation, lots of water, mind-expanding books, stories of other people’s successes and a Marx Brothers movie every once in a while? Good job! This is another area where discipline is key. Remember the 51% rule and start making changes, one at a time. A big sweeping overhaul sounds great on paper, but in reality, most people cannot handle it and once they start to slip back into old habits, which will happen, it becomes too much; they get discouraged and then bail on themselves. I would suggest taking one habit that you suspect is not helpful and come up with a new habit to replace it. Say you watch three hours of TV a day. Cut it down to one hour and replace the other two hours with one hour of reading and a one-hour walk. You can’t just take things away because there will be a void and that needs to be replaced by a positive nourishing habit or activity. Always ask yourself: How is this helping me achieve my goals? Balance is the key here. Sometimes when I have some spare time, I watch a TED Talk. Other times I watch Woody Woodpecker cartoons. Both help to inspire me. The TED Talk opens my eyes to some new information and Woody helps me to relax and reset my mind.
So, what’s the BIG Idea?
Know that your dreams are real and unique to you. In all the workshops I’ve done around the world, I have never heard two people share the same dream for themselves.
You are one of a kind. This is a fact and also a responsibility. We may have no idea why or how we fit into the grand scheme of things and how we will impact others’ lives, but I am certain that we must do all we can every single day to fulfill the dream. It all starts with your mind.
Where you set your sights. How you feel about yourself and others. If you are not happy or satisfied; if you are feeling frustrated and angry; the good news is, you can change it. It’s all in a state of mind.